When Mr. Inloes told us that we had to write an essay of 500 words or more on gender issues and or adversitments dealing with gender, I wasn't exactly sure how to go about that. It took me a pretty long time to try and think of one topic to cover that I would be able to find an article on and be able to relate to it in my own life. Finally, I picked my topic. I chose to right about genderized double standards. I grew up having two older brotehrs and that was hard being not only the only girl in the family but being the youngest. Yeah, my brothers broke some rules for me so when I got to high school I wouldn't have to deal with so much but for the most part it was really hard. There have been so many times in my life where I wanted to do something but my parents wouldn't let me...but they would let my brothers? For example, both my brothers went to U of M and I always wanted to go visit. When my oldest brother was there, my brother David went to go visit him when he was a junior in high school. My parents were totally cool with letting him drive up with a bunch of friends and spending the night, I mean it's my brother not some stranger he would be staying with. When it came time for me to become a junior and I asked to spend a night at Michigan with my brother the answer I got was "no you're too young". But wait...when my brother was allowed to we were the same age. and they kept saying well, it's different he is a guy. It's little things like this that need to change because girls and boys are allwoed to do the same thing! Double standards should not be around anymore. They say that everyone is supposed to be treated fair and equal how come it's easier said than done?
Have you ever been in a type of pickle like the one I was in?
What is your take on double standards, do you think there are some things boys should do and girls shouldn't at a certain age? place?
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I agree with Emily in saying that double standards are not fair, girls should be able to do anything that guys can do. MY brother is two years younger than me, and when he goes out at night he tells my parents he is going over to a friends house but he doesn't know what they are doing for the rest of the night. And my parents let him go and don't really ask any questions. But when I want to go out my parents ask me, where are you going? Who is going to be there? aer you going to go anywhere else? If you go anywhere else you need to call? Why is it that my brother, who is younger than me, is allowed to pretty much do whatever he wants without getting questions, but i have to answer about ten questions before I can leave the house? It is just not fair. I don't understand why boys are allowed to do things and girls can't, I mean what is the reason for not letting us do things that guys can do? In Emily's example, I don't see why she couldn't have gone up to Michigan to visit her brother. I know parents worry about things like drinking and girls being somewhere by themselves where they don't know anyone, but Emily would have been with her brother. Her parents know her brother, it wasn't like it was someone that they didn't know very well. I don't see why she couldn't go. Everyone says that girls and guys should be treated equally, in school and in the workplace, but why is that this has yet to happen?
The whole equal in America yes the majority abides by that law, but it's the little things that people soemtimes don't always understand that it can be issues as suddle as that one that proves that equality doesn't always happen. We need to be aware of everyone's feelings and understand that not everyone has the same viewpoint on several issues. And with the parents thing lauren, every parent is the same. Over the years my parents have gained trust in me as I grew older but they STILL bombard me with questions that you just don't want to answer all the time. Why does it always happen to the baby girl of the family? My brothers claim they got asked the same questions and had to go throught the same stuff I go through when they were growing up...but something just tells me they are saying that to make me feel better.
I think that double standards are unfair. People should not make decisions based on someones gender. I never really had a situation like Emily where I could not do anything, but that may be because my brothers are younger. It has always been about age in our family, not about gender. Even though that I never really experienced double standards, I have a lot of friends who have double standards in her house. She has two older brothers and when they were her age they got to do whatever they wanted, but she is kind of limited on what she gets to do. Society should not base these certain decisions on gender. They should look at the bigger picture like if they are responsible enough or if they can handle a certain situation. Usually I think its girls who do not benefit from this. Girls are usually the ones that are over portected and cannot do everything that their older brothers get to do. I think that girls are more responsible then boys at the same age anyway. We should not have girls are guys treated differently, and even though that people say they do not, it still shows like in Emily's story and my friend.
It's really interesting that Emily's post is about double standards, because something along those lines happened to me today. I was working at the Breadsmith and an older man walked in. After he placed his order, he asked me if I was the only one working. I mentioned that my manager was in the back, and another worker was doing dishes. He then asked me if there is any type of security in the store. I knew he thought that a girl around 17 years old shouldn't be working alone. The weird thing is if a teenage boy were working up front, then he wouldn't have said anything at all. I appreciate that the man was looking out for me, but at the same time it's almost frustrating. I'm able to take care of myself, and if there happened to be a problem I would know what to do just as much as a boy my age.
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